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"The first question is by no means whether we are content with ourselves, but whether we are content with anything at all. If we affirm one single moment, we thus affirm not only ourselves but all existence."
- Friedrich Nietzsche

The nature of healing consists not in the plastering over of old wounds, but in the freeing for integration of that which remained heretofore indigestible. Put simply, it isn't enough to stop the bleeding, since true healing requires that the wounding event itself be brought into coherence with the totality of memories and significations we call "the self." In other words, our suffering has to mean something to us, and to the extent that it lies outside the story of our lives, we remain fragmented.

Without making any pretense to wholeness myself, I do know what it's like to doubt the possibility of making any meaning of suffering. And yet, I've experienced this process in the context of healing relationship. "For nothing," to round out the above quote, "is self-sufficient, neither in us ourselves nor in things, and if our soul has trembled with happiness and sounded like a harp string just once, all eternity was needed to produce this one event - and in this single moment of affirmation all eternity was called good, redeemed, justified, and affirmed." If you're ready to try, I'm here.

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