• March 23, 2017
  • 7:00 pm
  • California Institute of Integral Studies
    1453 Mission Street
    San Francisco, CA 94103
Add to Calendar 03/23/2017 7:00 pm 03/23/2017 America/Los_Angeles Why Won’t You Apologize? Join us for 'Why Won’t You Apologize?', Harriet Lerner in Conversation with Barbara Morrill California Institute of Integral Studies
1453 Mission Street
San Francisco, CA 94103
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"If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won't You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer."

-Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong

With her signature punch and humor, Harriet Lerner sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language—"I'm sorry." She shows us how important the simple apology is, and what's required to heal broken connections and restore trust when the hurt we've inflicted or received is far from simple. Her book, Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party who has received a bad apology or none at all, and turns popular notions about forgiveness on their head.

Dr. Lerner is joined in conversation by Dr. Barbara Morrill to discuss what drives non-apologizers, over-apologizers, and how to craft a deeply meaningful "I'm sorry" of your own. Book sale and signing to follow.

Harriet Lerner, PhD, is one of our nation's most respected voices in the psychology of women and family relationships.  She is the author of numerous scholarly articles and twelve books, including the NYTimes best seller The Dance of Anger which has sold several million copies with over thirty foreign editions. Lerner served as a staff psychologist and supervisor at The Menninger Clinic for over two decades and currently has a private practice in Lawrence Kansas. She lectures and consults nationally and is best known for her unique ability to rescue men and women from the swamps and quicksands of difficult relationships. Her new book is Why Won't you Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts.


Barbara Morrill, PhD, is core faculty and former chair of the Integral Counseling Psychology Program at CIIS. She is a Clinical Psychologist licensed in CA, and has been in private practice for 20 years. Barbara has spent much of her life exploring women's social, psychological, and spiritual development, with an emphasis on intergenerational trauma. Her study of Etty Hillesum began in 2000, culminating with a presentation at the 2008 International Transpersonal Congress, New Delhi, India, entitled Being in the Face of Annihilation: Transformation Through Writing as Inquiry in the lives of two Dutch Women During the Holocaust: Etty Hillesum (1914-1943) and Jetteke Frijda (1925-present).Her continued study has been about the Evolution of Consciousness as well as spiritual practice/community with The Diamond Approach with A.H. Almaas and Karen Johnson. She presented on Unfolding Toward Being; Etty Hillesum and the Evolution of Consciousness in January, 2014 at the Second International Congress of the Etty Hillesum Research Center at Ghent University in Belgium.

Barbara Morrill

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